NOTE: If you have feelings of suicide or harming yourself, please get help. See your doctor, engage a counselor, or get to a hospital. But, please get help! You can call 1-800-273-8255 or go to National Suicide Prevention Lifeline to locate resources near you.
1. Admit how you are feeling! Stuffing feelings only builds up the pressure, increasing our discomfort and can make us blow things out of proportion.
2. Pray! If you think God can’t handle your anger, hurt, and disappoint, you need to read the Psalms. There is not much held back in the pleas for God to hear the writer’s pain and rescue him, wondering why it seems that God has forgotten him. God is big enough to handle your feelings and wants you to bring your doubts and fears to him.
3. Talk it out! Getting lost in your head only helps you keep running through the list of all of the things that are wrong or causing you pain. Getting all of the crap in your head out of your head can be so helpful. I have been reminded in the last couple of weeks that trying to tough it out by myself doesn't work well. I learned again last week that there are people willing to listen, if I let them.
4. Don’t isolate! As difficult as it can be, getting out among a few trusted friends can be so good. One friend and I are meeting weekly through the holidays to keep each other on track.
5. Make some plans! Looking forward can keep us from being stuck in what we see as dire present circumstances. I’ll be at church on Christmas Eve, and I’m planning on doing some volunteer work on Christmas Day. Giving to others makes me feel better; it gets my mind off me.
Most of all, please know that you are not alone. God hears your prayers, there are people who love you, and this will pass.
– Psalm 145:14 (MSG)