Rather than making resolutions, I choose words or intentions for the year. I chose the word resilience for this year. Resilience means health. Resilience means recognizing that just because things didn't go the way you planned them, you keep going. It means bouncing back and moving forward. It means bending and not breaking.
I've been talking about this concept of resilience and health with friends, clients, and students. Those who have done personal healing work have said that they knew they were healthier because triggers or crises have not taken them down as they used to do. We have had deep discussions about how things that used to depress them or cause them deep resentment no longer have the power over them that they used to do. It is a joyous thing to look back and see how far you have come!
To a person, the discussions about resilience have pointed to one thing: People who understood their identity and purpose also understood that the bad things that happened were not what defined them. Their ability to keep their personal mission statement, or understanding of what they perceived to be their purpose, in the front of their minds and understand their real identity helped them to process the situation in a healthier manner. It helped them to recover from the setback quicker and with greater clarity about their future.
In last fall’s Dream Big! Retreat, we spent a lot of time working on our personal mission statements. We spent time defining those things that we value and that bring joy to our lives – outside of the roles of mother, wife, boss, employee, etc. We talked about distractions and obstacles and how to get back on track when we get derailed. Most importantly, we talked about keeping hold of the vision even when there were obstacles in the way.
Here’s the reason why: knowing what you want to do, what you believe God created you to do helps you say “Yes!” when it resonates with who you are and “No!” when it comes to things don’t. The fact is that we seldom take any time away to be quiet and reflect on who we are, what we stand for, and then examine whether our lives reflect our values.
What I have also come to understand is that resilience means that you understand that the road to your dreams, your purpose will not be straight and smooth. Keeping that purpose in the front of your mind keeps you getting up and moving forward. So, it helps to know what that purpose is, even if you can only see a little glimpse of it.
So, get back after that dream, that resolution, your purpose! You can do this!